一楼献祭度娘！

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学究气浓郁、喜欢谈论哲学的楼主又来胡说八道、黑色幽默了，如果朋友们不喜，那就不要读了，免得彼此尴尬。我知道该去豆瓣发这篇文章，但是算了，打都打了，我懒得很。大家尽量别回帖了，最近有点忙，来这儿歇歇脚。注明：标题有点midleading，发帖绝对不是为了揭黑或者骂人。大家不要误会。
说句题外话，我说以貌取人你就是在戏弄自己，单纯交友也只是传说，我也从来不觉得男女真能保持一种至高无上的友谊，女生和我合得来的也少，很多都过于幼稚，所以就把interpals当做一个获取信息的渠道。
当然楼主至今沉浸在对前未婚夫的追思之中，谈论这些话题只是为了更加了解“人”。失婚的一年后，希望以心理学的方式治疗自己，然后也就能帮助迷途中的小姑娘们了。了解之后，我觉得生活其实也就这样了，自然一点反而好。中国人痛苦的根源在于：对sex太保守，以及大男子主义。至于前者，过分压抑性欲和纵欲一样，其实都是一种自我压迫，自找麻烦，不会有真正的解脱和快乐。后者，这是一个历史演变的必经过程，强行改变不成，那就从内心改造，即，女性要学会独立，要会爱自己，更要保护自己。一切，顺其自然，不必逼迫自己去爱别人，不要去钻牛角尖，更不要去爱爱情本身，要追求一种精神独立，像一个男人一样对待感情，至少在内心里要恪守一点。往往你受伤很多，正是因为你太认真了，或者太敏感，太完美主义。自讨没趣。
最初因为聊二战结缘（当然这小子聊这个也根本不是我的对手），聊着聊着就开始taboo 。这小子虽然年仅26岁，汽贸不扬，体型肥胖，却已有了三段情史，或说性爱史，而且艳福不浅，都是virgins，呵呵，但是扬言痛恨她们，以后再也不想见（？）。其中一个女友是中国人。小哥自言很想娶亚洲
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，唯一的原因是见过一个貌如天仙的日-新混血baby girl。在楼主直言不讳的讨教下，詹姆斯同学就不断地八自己10年的性经验予以传授“his daughter”(呵呵，真以为我是小白啊)，这让我不由得联想到前日追的美剧《性爱大师》，真枪实弹虽然仅仅十年，但是感悟非凡，经验老道。当然，这不是重点，重点是一个很严重的社会问题：中国幼稚的性教育。这完全就是不给女生保护自己提供一个良好的契机，根源而言，是一种蔑视女性的行为，很令人失望。
一些提供一些我的朋友的原话，大家可以看看，但是不要太激动，更不要民族主义，其实其中并没有的挑逗的内容（就像是一个心理学爱好者和一个研究对象的对话）。新西兰这国家的人都很悠闲的，生活节奏很慢，所以不可能和大多数中国人一样天天很一本正经。千万别较真！：）
例句1：Yes of course!!! number 1 rule is you have to preheat the oven before you put the meat in haha ;) you never go in if its not ready. Wow this sounds like im telling my daughter sex education hahaha some girls cant produce enough natural fluids there so you have to use a lubricant and then other girls are out of control and its like a flowing river all are different. Im a master???!!! haha i wish!! are you being serious you want to know my favourite? or are you being sarcastic? its hard to tell over written words :P
例句2：Your welcome! well they dont offer sex education in school in China so you know as the older out of us 2 im doing my fatherly duty to teach you hahaha. Pfffffffffffff high school kids no nothing of sex!!! amateurs!! they have sex twice and think they are masters when really they know zero!! well if you want to ask real advice or questions feel free, like i say it doesnt bother me talking about it so im always here to offer fatherly advice haha. Yeah it depends on the girl definitely some you have to lube up with shop bought stuff or you perform oral sex on them and its good to go but i hate doing that it tastes disgusting and smells weird (some girls). So shop bought stuff is the best!
例句3： Hey dont knock the doggy style position haha it feels great, and it feels great for girls to!
例句4：you think im one of those guys who gets a girl pregnant and then leaves her or doesnt do the right thing. Im a good guy haha gosh! i have morals on certain things :)
例句5：Whaaaaat are you serious?? are you thinking im some kind of immoral person or something?? noway id ever do that, if i get a girl pregnant she will be my wife. Gosh what do you think of me??? :O
例句6：hahaha yeah the best part about having a baby you get to have lotssssss of baby making time :P when your time comes and you start doing it you will say to me oh so i just got done with some baby making time it was great, then ill say yeah so did i!! high five! haha. Yeah high school was my highest strike record i had a great time, the best one was 2 weeks in Canada for a Rugby tour it was just 2 weeks or parties and girls it was awesome!! College i did alright, but in the end i had a girlfriend for a while so i was a one woman man. Carefree? if you mean with casual sex then yes carefree is a word id use for it haha.
例句7: hahaha yeahhhh pretty much! Yeah they can but not as beautiful as half asian babies. I only know one she is half Japanese and half kiwi she is a really beautiful baby! thats why when i saw her i said i want oneeeee haha. Thank you, it will be no problem we have lots of chinese and koreans here haha baby making time ;)
例句8：Yes of course its useful, i like learning about other cultures views on things. Especially things that some cultures view as so taboo. But i think i will ultimately marry a girl of Asian ethnicity because i think half and half babies are beautiful!!
例句9：In the beginning we were physically attracted to one another and one thing leads to another and then sex happens. After a while of knowing each other better we found we had different opinions on things and found that even though we might be attracted to one another and we enjoy each others company there was noway it would be a long term thing because of our differences.
Its not boring, this is a large important part of life. For me its very interesting to see how Chinese people view marriage and sex. I think you would find things a lot easier if you were living in a western country :) less pressure.
例句10：Well its different, to be honest i have been with 3 virgins but one of the times i was a virgin also. So really 2 virgins when i wasnt. We just werent a good match, we were to different. We wanted different things also. Im not going to marry someone just because she gave me her virginity.....thats her choice to do not like i forced her or anything. If she said to me if you take my virginity we must marry of course i wouldnt do it. But i dont think it means automatic marriage.
Yeah i have had a few relationships now, but i think in order to find the right one you need to do that to find out what you really want in a partner. I disagree i think sex is hugely important in a relationship, from someone who hasnt had sex its kind of hard to explain. But to me if you care about someone its the best thing you can do with that person, there is nothing more intimate 2 people can do together than have sex. The passion that you feel is amazing. Now this is different to casual sex of course im talking about sex with a partner not a one night stand.
I think finding a good guy because you are a virgin is insane.....but again ill never understand this because of the culture difference. Heres the thing, everybody thinks oh my first time is going to be so magical and amazing i got news for you its not. Its going to hurt the girl like crazy and theres lots of blood, its so far from being magical. It actually takes several attempts just for her to get used to being able to have sex and enjoy it. All of it is built up like crazy only to be let down when you experience it. I wouldnt care if my wife was a virgin, she cant be a hooker haha but it doesnt bother me if im not her first time.
例句11：haha yesssss when she told me i just had a blank look on my face i didnt think she was being serious haha. But she learned very quickly haha i think it made her want it more than other girls ive been with because it was like wowwww this is what i have been missing out on all this time haha :D Innocent girls are so cute though!! oh poor chinese girls so innocent haha not like Japanese they are very dirty!! I have a friend from Japan she came to NZ on holiday (i met her on this site actually!) and when she came to my city we were talking about sexual things i dont know why haha it just came up and she was telling me how dirty Japanese men are and that they act really shy in the street but when they are home they are very perverted. No i dont think it means stupidity it just means that you are sheltered and not aware of the world around you. We had a big thing on the news here a while back because we have a huge number of chinese immigrants that come here and there were so many chinese single mothers and it was because they lacked the sexual knowledge before coming to NZ and they were getting into situations they werent prepared for and i guess many men would take advantage of that. It was such a huge problem because of the shame the girl faced if she went back home.
例句12：You know what i was really shocked about and i think a lot of foreign guys will take advantage of this is just how little sexual knowledge chinese girls have. She told me in school there is no sexual education and she only found out about sexual things and how to make babies etc. when she was 19 and moved to NZ. Where as for us we learn about things when we are 14, and a lot of people are sexually active by the age of 15-16. So i think a lot (not all of course) of chinese girls are very innocent and foreign guys will take advantage of that. Yeah old guys and young girls it makes me sick.....i hate seeing that. It makes me angry even just talking about it haha

例句13：haha sure you can ask the master things, student can learn from the master haha. Ummmmm to be honest it depends if its random sex with someone you dont have any feelings for then it is purely just about the act of sex as you say. But if its someone i care about like a girlfriend then it is making love and it has feelings involved and the sex feels soooooooo much better! Especially at the times when you both climax together that feels more amazing than anything and when you can both feel how intimate and close you feel to each other.
Yes there is bacteria of course haha but not to make you sick. But if the topic comes up where i get asked to do i change the subject really quick. But girls love it more than sex.....but damn its nasty haha.

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