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世界上最远的距离,莫过于我们坐在一起,你却在玩手机 “世界上最远的距离,莫过于我们坐在一起,你却在玩手机”——对“手机依赖症”这一颇为“文艺”的描述,透着许多无奈。  其实,“手机依赖症”并非孤立存在,往往和“网络性格说”“下班沉默症”连在一起。在现实与虚拟的角力中,人们宁可去体验“镜中我”,却不愿意扮演“真我”,在时间分配上厚此薄彼,在角色转化上含糊不清,由“手机依赖症”引发的各种情感危机,一再重复上演。  当一些人“两耳不闻窗外事,一心只想玩手机”的时候,手机这一通讯工具摇身一变,在无形之中改变了人们的生活方式,甚至改变了人们的性格。  一项全国性调查显示,71.8%的受访者认为过分依赖手机而忽视当面交往的现象普遍存在。  “手机依赖症”在关上一扇社会互动之“门”的同时,也建构了一道社会排斥的“心墙”。“手机依赖症”也是“网络性格说”的载体延伸,浏览网页、上网聊天、刷微博、搜索成为手机的新兴功能。换言之,如果脱离了网络,“手机依赖症”就成了水中花、雾中月。  在网络提供的匿名空间里,人们乐此不疲地获取信息、发泄情绪、塑造角色、建构关系;网络既满足了人们尊重和交往的需要,也为人们的自我实现提供了平台。依托网络的手机之所以有吸引力,就在于它提供了另类的社会空间和新潮的互动平台,符合一些人的性格特征和消费旨趣。  因此,“手机依赖症”的出现,也是一种必然。但如何消除和减缓“手机依赖症”的负面影响,每个人的自我克制固然重要,但是,更需要社会活力的进一步激发,促进社会互动形式和内容的双重创新。只有现实空间的吸引力增强了,才会将人们从手机的虚拟世界中抽离出来。
当初我未嫁,你未娶,你干什么去了? 女友说,她的前男友大年三十坐在他们以前约会的地儿,抽了几支烟,坐了一小时。她问我:感动吗?我说:不感动。 不要告诉我这个男生向你求过婚,只是你未答应。亦不要告诉我他只是自惭形秽,配不上你如珠如宝。男生不像女生只懂承受,哪怕他再愚钝,在真正的爱情面前都充满攻击性。 我见过某男,不被女方家庭接纳,为与他心爱的女子约会,半夜跳墙爬楼,不料被女子父母发现,便躲入水缸,寒冬腊月,几乎冻死,终于感动老人。我亦见过某男,地位卑贱,被视为与女友不对等,为不使爱人受委屈,与女友约定两年之期,两年后果然衣锦还乡,香车别墅抱得美人归。 真正爱你的男生一定是这样的,或者精神强大,或者物质强大,你被感动或者打动,然后心甘情愿与这个男生白头偕老。而如果他既做不到前者,又做不到后者,那么,相信我,他只是不够爱你。他对自己没有信心,不知道能否给你幸福;他对你没信心,不知道你能否永伴他晨昏;他对爱情没信心,不知道明天是否这热烈就会化为灰烬,痴痴变成笑柄。 他想来想去,还是守着这平淡的日月比较安全,还是找一个不需要他耗心费力的另一半比较安全,还是没有承诺没有压力,走一步看一步比较安全…… 而这一切,还是因为,只是因为,他还不够爱你。 的前男友为你从十七岁等到二十多,我不感动;你久未联系的前前男友隔山隔水打听到你的电话,称他虽已有妻有女但随时愿意为你离婚,我同样,不感动。 我们所在的世界没有王母,你不是牛郎,我亦不是织女,你若真对我情深如此,当初我未嫁,你未娶,你干什么去了?
社交网站关注前情人难治情伤 many as half of Facebook users are risking psychological damage from using the site to spy on ex lovers, according to new research. 根据一项最新研究,有多达半数的Facebook用户使用该网站查看前情人的消息,这可能导致使用者的心理受创。 Two of the most cited reasons for accessing Facebook are to keep in touch with others and to surreptitiously(偷偷地) monitor them - with between a third and half of users using it to check up on ex-partners. With close to a billion users, it means hundreds of millions may be finding it more difficult to get over a broken romance. Psychologist Dr Tara Marshall said in the past, such spying and keeping tabs with what your ex was up to was challenging. You could try and pry information from his or her friends, telephone, or drop by their place, but it was usually unlikely you would turn up much useful information. This made it easy for people to distance themselves from the relationship and move on - an emotionally healthy breakup. But as long as you remain 'friends' with your ex on Facebook, they are now able to keep up with everything you are doing. While satisfying a certain curiosity factor, it see***ikely that it would make it far more difficult to actually emotionally distance yourself from your past relationship. In a survey of 464 participants, most of whom were undergraduate students, she found people who remain Facebook friends with an ex-partner will experience poorer breakup adjustment and personal growth relative to those who do not. The findings suggest continued online exposure to an ex-romantic partner may inhibit post-breakup recovery. Notably, frequent monitoring of an ex-partner's Facebook page and list of friends was associated with greater distress. Dr Brenda Wiederhold, editor of Cyberpsychology, Behaviour and Social Networking which published the research, added: "This study sees again virtual life mirroring real life. "Just as real life contact with ex-partners may inhibit growth, healing, and well-being, so may virtual contact."
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