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Courtesy : Key to a happier world Courtesy : Key to a happier world Dr . Norman Vincent Peale Many years ago trying to help people with every kind of trouble left me with one sure conviction : in case after case the difficulty could have been overcome-----or might never have arisen----if the people involved had just treated one another with common courtesy. Courtesy, politeness, good manners----call it what you will, the supply never seems to equal the demand. “It’s not so much what my husband says,” a tearful wife confides, “as the way he says it. Why does he have to yell at me?” “ I hate my boss,” a grim-faced office worker mutters. “he never shows appreciation for anything.” “All we get from our teenagers,” a worried parent says. “ is a moody sullenness.” Such complaints are not limited to people who sit in my study. Human beings everywhere hunger for courtesy. “Good manners,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson, “are the happy way of doing things.” And the reverse is equally true. Bad manners can ruin a day ----or wreck a friendship. What are the basic ingredients of good manners? Certainly a strong sense of justice is one: courtesy is often nothing more than a highly developed sense of fair play . Another ingredient of courtesy is empathy. A quality that enables a person to see into the mind or heart of someone else. to understand the pain or unhappiness there and to do something to minimize it. Yet another component of politeness is the capacity to treat all people like, regardless of all status or importance. Even when you have doubts about some people, act as if they are worthy of your best manners, you may also be astonished to find out that they really are. I truly believe that anyone can improve his or her manners by doing three things. First, by practicing courtesy. All skills require constant repetition to become second nature: good manners are no exception. The second requirement for improving your manners is to think in a courteous way. In the long run , the kind of person you are is the result of what you’ve been thinking over the past twenty or thirty years. If your thoughts are predominantly self-directed, a discourteous person is what you will be. If on the other hand you train yourself to be considerate of others, if you can acquire the habit of identifying with their problems and hopes and fears. good manners will follow almost automatically. Finally, to have good manners you must be able to accept courtesy, receive it gladly, rejoice when it comes your way. Strangely, some people are suspicious of gracious treatment. They suspect the other people of having some ulterior motive. But some of the most precious gift in life come with no strings attached. You can’t achieve a beautiful day through any effort on your part. You can’t buy a sunset or even the scent of a rose. Those are the world’s courtesies to us , offered with love with and without thought of reward or return. Good manners are , or should be , like that. In the end, it all come down to how you regard people---not just people in general , but individuals. Life is full of minor irritations and trials and injustices. The only constant, daily , effective solution is politeness--- which is the golden rule in action. I think that if I were allowed to add one small beatitude as a footnote to the other it might be : Blessed are the courteous.
Courtesy : Key to a happier world Many years ago trying to help people with every kind of trouble left me with one sure conviction : in case after case the difficulty could have been overcome-----or might never have arisen----if the people involved had just treated one another with common courtesy.Courtesy, politeness, good manners----call it what you will, the supply never seems to equal the demand. “It’s not so much what my husband says,” a tearful wife confides, “as the way he says it. Why does he have to yell at me?” “ I hate my boss,” a grim-faced office worker mutters. “he never shows appreciation for anything.” “All we get from our teenagers,” a worried parent says. “ is a moody sullenness.”Such complaints are not limited to people who sit in my study. Human beings everywhere hunger for courtesy. “Good manners,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson, “are the happy way of doing things.” And the reverse is equally true. Bad manners can ruin a day ----or wreck a friendship.What are the basic ingredients of good manners? Certainly a strong sense of justice is one: courtesy is often nothing more than a highly developed sense of fair play . Another ingredient of courtesy is empathy. A quality that enables a person to see into the mind or heart of someone else. to understand the pain or unhappiness there and to do something to minimize it.Yet another component of politeness is the capacity to treat all people like, regardless of all status or importance. Even when you have doubts about some people, act as if they are worthy of your best manners, you may also be astonished to find out that they really are. I truly believe that anyone can improve his or her manners by doing three things. First, by practicing courtesy. All skills require constant repetition to become second nature: good manners are no exception. The second requirement for improving your manners is to think in a courteous way. In the long run , the kind of person you are is the result of what you’ve been thinking over the past twenty or thirty years. If your thoughts are predominantly self-directed, a discourteous person is what you will be. If on the other hand you train yourself to be considerate of others, if you can acquire the habit of identifying with their problems and hopes and fears. good manners will follow almost automatically.Finally, to have good manners you must be able to accept courtesy, receive it gladly, rejoice when it comes your way. Strangely, some people are suspicious of gracious treatment. They suspect the other people of having some ulterior motive. But some of the most precious gift in life come with no strings attached. You can’t achieve a beautiful day through any effort on your part. You can’t buy a sunset or even the scent of a rose. Those are the world’s courtesies to us , offered with love with and without thought of reward or return. Good manners are , or should be , like that.In the end, it all come down to how you regard people---not just people in general , but individuals. Life is full of minor irritations and trials and injustices. The only constant, daily , effective solution is politeness--- which is the golden rule in action. I think that if I were allowed to add one small beatitude as a footnote to the other it might be : Blessed are the courteous.
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